Over the past twenty-eight years of Alli’s life, her parents supported her and her disabled brother named Lawrence. They were not famous, did not minister, weren’t bestselling Authors, or own big city buildings. Alli’s parents were just right for her. They taught her how to walk, talk, read, count, and have good morals and values. She went to church every Sunday, and their congregation had less than 100 when she was an infant up until the time, she was five. Alli went to a more prominent church by the time she was seven-years-old, and she surrounded herself with people that were her age. She went to a small public school where there were only ten to fifteen in a classroom. Nothing like private schools or bigger public schools in the surrounding area. But God did not judge her based on where she lived or came from because he knew the heart that Alli had.
Why Alli Knows Better Now
Alli Billings knows better because she doesn’t have to ask herself why her first job didn’t last, first love stay, friendships from middle and high school, and the ones in her early twenties last forever, and why all that caused hurt and pain. She understood that she needed to experience heartbreak, toxic friends, and a toxic work environment to mature and grow as a human being. The anger and bitterness from her career and personal life showed her what she needed to work on to be a better person.
From her broken friendships, she now knows what a true friendship takes. True friendship takes communication, honesty, respect, kindness, empathy, being there for one another through the good and bad times, and much more. Friends don’t judge each other on their marital status, social class, income, and what kind of car they drive in or how they look. Friends look past their status and how much they make to see who they indeed are as a person.
From her toxic love-life, she is more aware of red flags. Alli listens to her intuition when something is not right with someone and walks away with dignity. She senses the lies, gas-lighting, manipulation, selfishness, insecurities, laziness, irresponsibility, and not being made a priority. Alli knows that is worth so much more than being made a doormat and one of the guys. She knows that she needs to be treated like a lady and taken out on proper dates.
From the dead-end jobs, Alli recognized and came to terms that those jobs were not worth her time and energy. She realizes her worth and value and will not settle for minimum wage. Alli had to quit a position or two to run the business that God had already planned for her. The only thing that she needs to feel confident and secure in her company is God.
Alli’s Mom Writes a Letter to Alli
My Little Princess,
Can I still call you Little Princess? The first time I saw you and Carly dress up as princesses to act out the story Cinderella and wear your tiara I thought you were the most beautiful little princess I ever saw and I called you my “Little Princess.” I am so proud of the young lady you have become. I have seen you grow from a little girl into a teenager to a college student and now an adult woman. You have brought a smile on my face on my darkest and brightest days. You made me laugh when I wanted to cry and listened to me when I needed you the most.
I know that you have been through four relationships and I was devastated to see you hurt over and over again especially with Jon and Nick. But nothing can never replace the amount of love God has for you. I always wanted to protect you from getting hurt by a man but I had to let you understand what the true meaning of love was so that you could be prepared to see what real love is from a man.
I hope when you read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 that you will understand what love is and apply it to your love life. I want you to understand that love takes patience, kindness, is not jealous, and keeps no record of wrongs which is further discussed in the Bible verse I have given you. Also, to wait for God’s timing for Him to place the man into your life that He wants you to have because God designed that man especially for you and no one else.
You Can’t Compare Adams to Apples
One day Alli’s mom told her daughter when she saw her breaking down and crying at the fact that she hadn’t had opportunities in her life like her friends have had in school she said, “You can’t compare Adams to apples.” Alli laughed to herself and said she wasn’t an apple. Her mom’s point was you can’t compare your life to others, and God works everything in his timing. Alli wanted to believe at the time that God’s timing was perfect, but life as she knew it was not coming together in her work and personal life. Alli just wished that the world would disappear. Soon the enemy filled her mind with that she was not good enough and continued to bully her with that thought. Just like the enemy, Alli had a school bully or two and she did not take up for herself. Due to fear, Alli did not talk back to the devil when he would come ringing in her head. All along, she didn’t realize that what it took for others to have the things they had in life.
In Romans 14:5-8 it said, “One-person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be convinced in his mind. The one who observes the day sees in honor of the Lord.”
Seven Weapons of Self-Destruction:
- Uncontrolled thoughts
How to Tackle the Seven Weapons of Self-Destruction?
- Remind yourself daily what Jesus did for you.
- Ask the Holy Spirit to give you better thoughts.
- Realize you have a new ability to say “no.”
- Turn your thoughts to God whenever you feel afraid.
- Focus on the long-term instead of the short-term.
- Remind yourself that God is good and in control.
- Trust that God will never stop loving you (Life Through the Spirit, 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011).